i'm encouraged by the potential for change. People change their minds, change their habits, change their path. For years in my job i've watched people change. Most of us don't like to change. But given enough misery in our current situation and enough support for making it different, we can change. There's tremendous hope in … Continue reading What encourages me
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Advice to ignore
i would suggest you ignore advice that goes against your values or deeply held beliefs. That's not to say you shouldn't be open to examining your values,and even deeply held beliefs can be open to change. But ultimately if someone is telling you to do something that goes against your deepest sense of what's right, … Continue reading Advice to ignore
My first memory of one friend
At first, i thought this was supposed to be my first memory of having a friend - like the first friend i remember having. i'm kind of glad it's not that, since that would have been a really mundane story of climbing trees and sharing secrets as a child. Sweet, but not very exciting. Instead, i … Continue reading My first memory of one friend
Something i want to try
i want to try... finishing the things i start. Little things - making sure the last dish is in the washer, the pans washed and put away, the table and the counters wiped. The laundry washed, dried, and put away - the whole load, even the last pillowcase or wash cloth. Cooking all the food i buy - … Continue reading Something i want to try
Where I want to be…
My answer to this is pretty much always "Walking on the beach." But i'm content where i am right now. Lots of pleasant things happening, MP's health is a bit better, lots of planning happening, changes and challenges at work... life is good. (i think i just answered tomorrow's prompt but that's ok.) Also - … Continue reading Where I want to be…
September Prompts
i found these from Han over on Infinitesimal Thoughts and thought it would be fun to do some of them as we move into September. Of course, that doesn't start til tomorrow, but I thought I'd post the list today in case someone else wants to use them. (Ok, today is the 1st - wrote … Continue reading September Prompts
Belated Sunday Check-in
i am still here - doing house things. Downsizing my stuff. Pushing us forward on the path of getting ready to sell the house. No exciting developments from fetlife - or real life, for that matter. And that's ok. i'm in a phase of transition anyhow. Still not losing weight, not working on my book, … Continue reading Belated Sunday Check-in
He Ghosted
RS, our potential guy, ghosted. Last thing he said was "looking forward to meeting you both," and MP emailed him a suggestion that we get together for dinner - that was Sunday. Nothing since then. It's ok. Seriously. Maybe he thought i was going to send him a tit pic and was disappointed, maybe he … Continue reading He Ghosted
Intricate Links
i believe there are intricate links between BDSM and trauma and healing. i don't understand how it works, but i believe it connects. I just don't know how. i don't even know what kind of connection it is, i just know it's there. In any case. i know that being spanked a couple of nights … Continue reading Intricate Links
Things are happening…
Three cool things happened yesterday. i'd been chatting, super briefly, with a Dom in a nearby city who seemed like a nice guy. But when MP agreed to be involved in finding me a Dom play partner, i promised him that i wouldn't exclude him from any relationship i might have like that. So a … Continue reading Things are happening…