Weird Dream

So i had this dream the other night.   We had just bought a house (not sure who “we” was, but anyhow.)  It was huge.

It was so big that after I moved in, I realized there were whole parts of it that I hadn’t even seen.  So I started wandering around trying to find out what was there.

I saw a woman walking through the house, up ahead of me.  I followed her, passing through long hallways and up some stairs.  She never turned back to look at me and I never tried to get her attention, just followed.

She went through parts of the house I’d never seen before.

Finally, she ended up at an apartment – like a studio apartment.  Still inside the house.  And then I knew that she lived there.  She and another woman – it’s not clear in my mind now if I saw the other woman or if i just knew about her, like it can happen in dreams.

I was glad they were there, glad I’d seen them.  I think the woman and I exchanged greetings, and then I woke up, or the dream shifted, and that was all of that.

In the morning, I just thought, “weird, weird, weird.”  Then i remembered the little bit I think I know about dreams.  So the house represents me.  And the women that I hadn’t met and don’t know much about would be parts of my own psyche.   Parts of my self.

I think that’s pretty cool.


FFF 8-24 (on Saturday)

I was traveling yesterday and barely realized it was Friday or I might have gotten my FFF done.  But that’s ok, because GUESS WHAT!!  I have a new number on the scale this morning.  155.8  That’s right.  One – Five – Five.  Ok, it’s point 8, but still.

That’s 20 pounds less than 175, which is where I originally started on this challenge.  (I think.  It could have been 178.  Not when I started in January with FFF, but when I originally realized I HAD to lose weight.)


Anyhow – step count?  Seven day average is 8,100.  Yes, that’s over my 7,000 goal.  I have a new strategy, of sorts.  I maximize my steps on the weekends, aiming for 10,000, which I can usually do those two days, and then try for 7,000 during the week.  I’ve been doing better about walking in the morning before I get locked into meetings and such, and I’ve been scheduling phone calls with friends during my walk.  Since it’s a walk, not exactly a power walk, it’s no problem to do that.  Plus it forces me to step away from whatever else I’m doing at that time.

Anyhow.  I’m not mentioning that one day when I forgot to schedule breaks and found myself at the end of the day with 1,295 steps.  Clearly, the plan is working overall, so that’s exciting.

Fondles, sorry I’m late…  ❤  Thanks so much for doing this.  I don’t think I’d have this success without the community of support you created.


FFF – 8-10-18

Here we go… reporting in.  Step count average was 5,341 – which is worse than last week, but not an all-time low.  Weight range is about the same, although I’ve actually seen a 157.something a few times.  I’ve been doing better on not over eating at night.

I’ve been working on emptying boxes in the garage – now am at the point that I need someone to help me move some boxes before I can make more progress.  I’ll pin my daughter down to it sometime soon.

I had an unpleasant afternoon and evening experiencing some vertigo this week ( see, that has become my “all things health related” outlet.)  It finally went away, but not before I considered the possibility of a lifetime of being unable to move around independently.  That’s some scary stuff.

My new and improved doctor told me that there’s an easy fix for it though – just shake your head vigorously for about 8 seconds and it should go away.  That’s good to know; this is maybe the third time it’s happened in the last few years, so it may well happen again.  Hopefully, I’ll remember the cure.

So I did the skin tag removal thing – I will tell you, that was even more uncomfortable than I expected.  Ok, painful.  It hurt.  Like a mother.  And I have at least one more session to get through.  But – it will all be worth it.  As my mother used to say, “You have to suffer to be beautiful.”  (Please be aware that I totally believe that and I totally think it’s ridiculous, both at the same time.)

Date night is tonight!  Woohoo – good times ahead.



I’ve been thinking about re-finding myself (“What? Again?” you say.)

Yes, again.  There was the whole re-finding my kinky self, which is doing pretty well these days.  Now i need to re-find my work self.  And maybe my everything else self too.  And recognize that it’s just an ongoing process.  I don’t get to do it and then it’s done.

A couple of things have brought that home to me.  One is this quote:

“carrying on a conversation at dinner and texting under the table…. Continuous Partial Attention involves an artificial sense of constant crisis, of living in a 24/7, always-on world. It contributes to feeling stressed, overwhelmed, overstimulated, and unfulfilled; it compromises our ability to reflect, to make decisions, and to think creatively.”
― Sharon Salzberg, Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation

I used to pride myself on multi-tasking.  Now I just do it mindlessly.  I would like to move away from that and be better able to focus.  Because this is also true:

“The simple act of being completely attentive and present to another person is an act of love, and it fosters unshakeable well-being. It is happiness that isn’t bound to a particular situation, happiness that can withstand change.”
~~ Sharon Salzberg, Real Happiness

And being able to do that is an act of service.  It’s one I used to practice regularly with Sir, consciously turning my attention to him when he talked to me.  I’ve gotten out of that habit.

Partly, i’ve quit doing it because we both work from home.  He may pass through my “office” area, taking a break from his own work, while i’m right in the middle of something.  He would never interrupt a meeting, but if i’m writing or reading something, he often starts a conversation.  I may or may not stop what i’m doing to fully pay attention to what he’s saying.  Often, it barely slows me down – i can type, nod, and say mmmmhmmm quite easily.

In the same way, if Sir and i are talking, and i get a text message or email, i may open it and answer while still carrying on the conversation with him.  Which is going to be a fairly half-assed conversation at that point.

So one goal is to do that less.  To do it less with Sir, and less with my daughter and grandkids too.

The other goal is to plan a few days personal retreat.  I found a retreat center within 30 minutes of us that has an affordable cottage I could rent.  It’s near the river and has trails to walk and even a prayer labyrinth.  Years ago, I used to go away by myself every year for a few days, somewhere similar with nice scenery and simple living quarters.  I haven’t done that since I met Sir.  So that’s on my agenda for the not-too-distant-future.

I want to use the time to retreat into myself, but also to plan my work for the next 6 months to a year.  I want to do a visual representation of what I want – and maybe I can do that before the retreat, and then use the retreat time to build on it.  I want to eat simple food and take long walks by myself, down the paths to the river and mindfully through the prayer labyrinth.


Slowly, i am building the life i want.



FFF 8-2-18

So here we are.

Step count is better.  Averaged 6,882/day this week, so that’s a definite improvement.

Weight range the same.  I have been eating a bit too much in the evening again and need a strategy for how not to do that.  (Although really, just saying no to those ice cream urges is probably key.)

The house is inching its way to better organized.  Maybe.  Two steps forward, one back.  Which is better than one forward and two back.

Had another lovely date day last week – date night didn’t work out, so we moved to Sunday afternoon, when no one else was home and some serious spanking was in order.

Another date night tonight – looking forward to it.  Have not made my appointment to get waxed yet, but that’s coming soon.  I am totally looking forward to it.

Not much else to say from here – sorry to be so boring… Just lots of productivity and some stability, which is not all bad.

Ok, y’all this is too funny – my first version of this ended with this paragraph.

I just now noticed that this post isn’t offering  me the option to use tags and categories.  Weird.  Playing around with it a bit, but still can’t do it.  Guess it doesn’t really matter – but strange.  Anyone else having this issue?

Then I went ahead and published it.

Then I realized I’d made a new page, not a new post.  Ooops…  Copy and paste and delete – and ta-dum, here ya go.   Ha.  You just never know the multitude of mistakes you can make til ya make ’em.  Glad I solved the Mystery of the Disappearing Tags.  Hope your day is at least that satisfying.

FFF – 7-27

29,000.  Y’all.  That’s my sad little step count for the week.  Sigh.  I’ve been in class 8 hours/day, from 11-7, and am just worn out.   Some days, I got 2,500 steps and just din’t care.  Today is the last day of class, thank goodness, and we end at 4.

My  neck is f’ed up from looking down at my laptop for too many hours – that actually started last week, and i’ve been trying to adjust for it this week, with a little bit of success.   But there’s still significant discomfort   I’ve ordered some tools that may help – a separate keyboard and a stand to raise the level of my screen, but they won’t be here til Tuesday.  Also yoga blocks so I can raise my chair and still touch the floor.

I had my first appointment with my new doctor and LOVED her.  I would possibly even take statins if she wants me to.  Possibly.  Ok, probably not really.  Did you know they can cause weight gain and an increased risk of diabetes?  Does it make any sense to you that I need to lose weight and to put me on a med that may make me gain weight?  I didn’t think so.

Ok, I just looked at an article on statins and it says that weight gain happens becuase people think being on the med means they can eat anything.  That won’t happen for me.  But how do they know that’s why it happens?  Hmmm…

The the article talks about statins causing muscle pain and weakness.  And adds this:

Muscle pain associated with statins is most often not serious and typically can be resolved by switching to a lower dose, or different statin drug. If you’re taking a statin and notice muscle pain, tenderness or weakness, dark or brown-colored urine, or unexplained tiredness, it’s important to call your doctor right away as that could be a sign of a fortunately rare, but deadly, side effect.

Y’all.  I get all kinds of muscle pains and tenderness that I don’t pay any attention to.  I will probably have that side effect and not even think about it and die.   So ok, no statins.

But I love my doctor, so that’s super cool!!!  AND (did I already tell you this?) she removes skin tags.  She does.  If you don’t have skin tags, you may be unimpressed.  But if you do, you’ll understand how thrilled i am.

Weight range is the same.  I’m getting a bit of organizing done in my office, which is pretty thrilling.  And I have many of my picture hung, finally.

Date night was lovely last week.  He didn’t have anything planned, but ended up taking me to a little restaurant at the beach, where we had a delightful meal.  Then we walked out on the pier and watched the night fishers and those wild and crazy folks who will get in the ocean at night.  It was just nice.

Then we went home, where i was appropriately spanked and played with.  Lot of pleasure all around.  I even got to indulge in a little cock worship, which was lovely.






What will you do today?


Sleep, exercise, fresh air, meditation, boundaries, social media detox, mani-pedi, facial, quiet time, flowers, journaling, therapy, asking for help, listening to a podcast, chiropractor, a cup of tea, a nap, walking, reading, getting a haircut, going to a doctor, painting, taking a bath, seeing a friend, using a babysitter, hiring help, buying a treat, going out to eat, massage, acupuncture

What would you add to the list?