I played with a lot of titles for this post. Gently laughing at myself, I considered "Complaints of Privilege, from Just Another White Girl," but I thought other people might not get the self-deprecating humor. I considered "Seeking Perfection from a Position of Privilege". Then, switching paradigms, I thought about "First Wife or Slave Girl?" … Continue reading The Imperfect Pleasure of Privilege
Just me
The Pleasures, 2
This is part of a series. Because I often use this space to bitch and complain, or to process the more painful parts of my life, I've decided to share some of my everyday pleasure too. Hope you enjoy... The beach is always a pleasure. The air, the sound of the waves, the people, the … Continue reading The Pleasures, 2
All Good Things…
On May 7, 2010, I wrote my first kinky blog post on my first kinky blog. It said: "This is my first post! O, my. Ok, this is a blog about me, a****. And Sir. And submission – mine; the dominance is His. But you probably already guessed that. i am just beginning to figure out … Continue reading All Good Things…
Finding My Way – Again
Over and over, we are hit by forces - emotional, physical, or spiritual - that threaten to submerge us. I felt that this weekend, so many of us suffering, whether we were in the middle of the social tsunami or watching, pacing helplessly and wringing hands, calling encouragement from the sidelines. That sounds so dramatic, … Continue reading Finding My Way – Again
We Are Not All Right
Across the country, protests are happening that scream of our not-all-rightness. We are not all right, the children are not all right. It makes me think of this story about the Masai warriors in Africa: And How Are the Children. "Among the most accomplished and fabled tribes of Africa, no tribe was considered to have … Continue reading We Are Not All Right
Yet ANOTHER Day in TCT
A ditty flows through my head, "Here comes another day, just like the other day..." I don't know where it comes from or even if those are the right words... And really, it doesn't matter. Songs come and go. I was looking at Jade's recent photo blogs here and kept hearing the refrain "Every picture … Continue reading Yet ANOTHER Day in TCT
People are Funny
I wander around FB and Linked-In, Twitter and Instagram from time to time, people watching. It’s a more intimate glimpse than what we have at the coffee shop, right? Even if half of it is posturing and bravado, it’s still a fascinating look at what’s going on with us and what we’re willing to share. … Continue reading People are Funny
Sex – Actual Sex
Having started thinking about what it’s like to fuck, I find myself thinking about it more. Way back in the day, long ago and far away, Erica Jong wrote about what she called “the zipless fuck.” As I recall, without doing any actual googling, it involved sex without any commitment or ongoing attachment, maybe without … Continue reading Sex – Actual Sex
Catching Up
At night, I fall into bed, exhausted. I put my ocean waves meditation on my phone and usually fall asleep quickly. Every few days, or maybe once a week, I remind myself that orgasms are a relaxation tool too. It’s a purely mechanical release, although I do have a fantasy or two just to get … Continue reading Catching Up
Another Sunday in TCT
At some point, writing here started to feel like another obligation instead of the pleasure it usually is. I shifted my writing to my vanilla life, and that felt right. Today, I've been sitting here for a bit trying to figure out how I'm doing. I mean, I'm ok. I'm not freaking out. I'm not … Continue reading Another Sunday in TCT
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