FFF 2.0 – 1-11

Reporting in, SIR! Or ma’am. With a salute.

  • Step count: 4,890 average
  • Weight: 160
  • Yoga challenge: Practiced 5 days out of 7
  • Mindfulness challenge: 5 days out of 5
  • Writing: 0 words

It is what it is… I just keep inching forward, and sliding back, over and over and over. One step forward and two steps back. AND I had no idea there was a song called that. Here it is.


Or Bruce Springstein with One Step Up (and two steps back.)

So I’m not doing all the things as well as I wanted to. But the sun is shining and life is good – hope it is for you too…


In 2019…

In 2019, I want to continue my journey toward being a crone.

Woman with purple hair streaming back from her face, gold background.
A Crone has earned that title!
She offers sage advice & tested wisdom; She is secure in her skin, soul, and self.  She shares her knowledge freely.  She is beautiful. She is trustworthy.  She is my friend.  I adore her and rely on her.

Except for the part about being adored. That would feel weird, at best.

Group of women in diverse bright colors gathered around a fire, seated and bending forward.

But I need a circle of support, I need to be part of a group.

And I am building that. I have y’all here, and you are close to my heart. I’m making friends and circles of support with the other people in my coach training program. But I want something more. Maybe I need to find a wiccan circle?

I’m going to a WordPress meet-up later this month, and that should be interesting. Also, they can (maybe) teach me how to make the alt text for images work. Currently I just put it at the bottom of the post (see below.)

Anyhow. Who do you connect with most deeply? Do you have a group of people who know each other that you rely on? Individual friends that each connect to you, like spokes on a wheel? One or two friends and your partner/spouse? What is your world like?


Image description: 1. Woman with purple hair streaming back from her face, gold background.
“A Crone has earned that title! She offers sage advice & tested wisdom; She is secure in her skin, soul, and self. She shares her knowledge freely. She is beautiful. She is trustworthy. She is my friend. I adore her and rely on her.”

2. Group of 5 women in diverse bright colors gathered around a fire, seated and bending forward.

FFF – 12/28/18 – End of the Year Edition

It’s been almost a year since I started this adventure. That’s amazing. I started in February – I was late getting with the program. And I’m so glad I did. (Yay for Fondles and thank you for getting me focused!)

I started with these goals:

  • Eat less
    • Use my stupid Fitbit to count calories
    • Reduce carbs and sugar. Cut the obvious ones. Pasta. Ice Cream.
    • Eat 3 meals and 1 snack per day – no more.
  • Move more
    • Pay attention to my stupid Fitbit when it tells me to move to get my 250 steps/hr (when possible.)
    • Do some kind of yoga once a week. Use the gift certificate I have for 3 free yoga classes
    • Do some kind of dance once a week
    • Do a walking video twice a week
  • Spend 20-30 minutes organizing stuff at least 4 day/week
  • At least twice a week, do one of the many things on my to-do list that I’ve been putting off doing.

It was a good starting place. I quit counting calories when I went full-on low carb (not keto, just low carb.) And I’ve definitely moved more, but not like I planned to. Didn’t do the yoga class. Didn’t dance once a week. Lots of didn’t’s there

I didn’t meet my goal for organizing, but I did pack and unpack my entire house, so that should be worth something. Well, mostly unpack. There might be a few more boxes in the garage… And I’m still working it on it.

My to-do list is always a work in process. Or progress. Is it work in process or progress? I’ve been wondering about that for a while. Hmmmm, the internet has lots of nuance about it – well, some nuance anyhow. It seems that work in process means the work is happening now, with an end in sight. Work in progress is long term with no visible ending. That’s me, for sure. My to-do list is both a work in process and in progress, so there’s that.

I’ll have some goals for the New Year next week. For now – this week:

Step count average: 5,869. That’s an improvement over last week, but not where I want to be. Still. I’ll take my improvements where I can get them.

In other news, I got a surprising email. If you’ve been reading here practically forever, you may remember long ago that Sir and I played with the idea of playing with another Dom. We got as far as emailing and setting a tentative date for dinner, which we had to break. Anyhow – that was back in September of 2016. A couple of days ago, I got an email from him.

He said: If you would ever be interested in meeting up, get back with me. We almost met up and our schedules got crossed, somehow. A long time ago.

Which made me laugh out loud. He does not even say “Hi.” Not so much as a “How are you?” Silly man. Even if we hadn’t moved far away a few months later, it seems unlikely that I’m going to want to connect with someone quite so – thoughtless? shallow? socially inept? Whatever. No, thank you.

I did respond though, cause that’s what I do, and told him we’d moved and to reach out if he ever got down here. He said he’d been to Our City before and it was a nice place to visit. And that’s the end of that, but it just made me laugh.

The holidays must make people nostalgic because I also got a message from one guy I’d been talking to on Fet – not the one I almost connected with, the other one. The one who’s married, looking for someone on the side. He didn’t have much to say (well, not now and not ever, really) but just dropped in for a minute. Figuratively speaking. He does at least ask how I’m doing and so on, which is still a pretty low bar for social niceties, but better than Mr. “Let’s meet up.”

And that’s the news for today – oh, ugh, except for the scale, which is at 159. Ok, 159.2. But I plan to lose 4-5 pounds over the next 10 days. Quit laughing. They’re new pounds, at least 2 of them are, I can do this. I am not going to finish the box of bourbon balls I got for Xmas (Woodford Reserve Bourbon Balls) or the ice cream in the freezer, and that will be a good beginning. So there.

FFF – 12-21 & Winter Solstice

My FFF is quick and ugly. Steps – 2,900/day average. Scale – 157.8 Book – no words. Zero.

“What?” you say, “What happened to the bold assertions of last week?”‘

Um, where have all the flowers gone? (Hahaha…)

Well, we did Christmas with my sister and brother-in-law on Tuesday, I worked extra other days to make up for the time lost, and for the time I’m going to take off this year. We did holiday stuff with the kids – baked cookies, got Santa pictures. One day I was in meetings for 9 hours straight, almost back to back. It was a full week, just not a lot of movement. (I know, I know, excuses, excuses…)

In other news, I’ve decided my website needs to be totally redone – not the content so much as the design. Well, the structure of the content needs to change along with the design. Not the concepts so much.

I had originally thought I wouldn’t work at all during my vacation (which starts today and goes through Wednesday of next week.) I thought it would be interesting to see what that would be like.

Now I’m on vacation and I’m dying to dig into that website. I was up til midnight last night working on it – but maybe I should just look at that as my last working time? I think I’ll do that. Maybe I’ll even spend some time off-line.

In any case – it’s Winter Solstice today!

Merry Winter Solstice! Blessed Be.

May the Solstice and Turning of the Wheel

Bring You Love, Peace, and Good Fortune in the Coming Year.

Welcome the Returning Sun with Joy.

FFF 12-7

It’s Friday!  Yay!  Although – I have class all weekend.  So it’s not like I’m going into a celebratory weekend.  But still.

AND here’s some good news – my 7 day average for steps is 6,219!  That’s almost at my goal of 7,000, so all I have to do now is keep up the good work!  (Ok, easier said than done.  But theoretically…)

My daughter and I have started going to the gym together, which helps immensely.  Apparently neither one of us will do it on our own, but together, we make it happen.  So that’s cool.

I am not making my fortune in my coaching business yet, but that’s ok.  It’ll happen.  I think.  I hope.  Fingers crossed…

I haven’t gotten on the scale in a while, which is possibly a mistake.  Well, I say in a while – probably a week ago.  I was still hitting 157 at that point, so we’ll see.  Hoping I can head down again.  I think I’ll set a goal.  150 by – by March.  By the end of March.  That’s totally realistic.

Date night has still been happening pretty regularly around here.  When it doesn’t, it’s been my fault.  I was sick forever, it seemed like.  Then this week I’ve got class, which is isn’t over til 7 p.m. and is exhausting.  (And you know I’ m pretty much an in-bed-by-9 kind of girl.)

We’ve had some fun dinners out though and that’s been nice.  There haven’t been any spankings since the one I asked for.  And honestly, I don’t think he’s going to initiate any.  I think he’ll be glad to oblige me if I ask, but I don’t think he’s going to pursue any kind of dominance.

Sigh.

I’m actually pretty ok with that for the moment though.  Not sure why.  Maybe that post-menopausal lack of desire has finally kicked in for me?  Anyhow, for whatever reason, I don’t need to go looking for problems.  I guess I will coast along and play it by ear.  We are connecting better in terms of spending time together, so there’s that.  Maybe that’s all I needed.

 Hope your holiday season is going well!!



FFF – 11-23

We celebrated Thanksgiving yesterday, including acknowledging the genocide of indigenous people which underlies the establishment of this country.  Then we had a Thanksgiving feast and appreciated each other and the bounty in our lives.  It was just the 5 of us – me and Sir, my daughter and the grands – but we had a lovely time.  And there was pie. 

 And other good news this week:  Step Count Average is back up to 4, 565.  Which may be kind of sad still, but at least it’s better than last week!  As David says, “Progress, Not Perfection.”

I’m still not feeling fabulous, I have some kind of cold/cough combo that I can’t seem to shake. I went to my doctor, who did not prescribe antibiotics because it is apparently not bacterial.  So I have killer cough syrup for nights, decongestants and nose spray, vitamin c and zinc.  It hasn’t kept me from doing things for the most part, and I’ve only taken a few spare hours of down time.  But it does keep me from feeling really good and I’m wracked with coughing fits that are miserable for me and probably for everyone one around me too.

In any case, as I count my blessings, know that this blogging community and each of you is on my list of “What I’m Grateful For…” 



A Little Beach Time

As it gets cooler, the allure of dawn at the beach is greatly reduced.   45 degrees, even 55, is a bit nippy.  I begin to find reasons excuses not to go.  I don’t even know where my winter clothes are.  I can’t find my walk-on-the-beach shoes.   My chair’s not in the car anymore.

When really I just don’t like being cold. Which is perfectly legit.

But it still warms up during the day around here.  60s and low 70s.  On Saturday, it hit 63 and I decided to brave it.  The sun was out, it wasn’t too windy, what the heck.

And of course it was lovely.

Ocean waves...

The waves were lovely, as always.  The light was different, there were shadows where often there are none.


I didn’t have my chair, so I sat in the swing for a while and rocked a bit.

Then I decided to go adventuring – I was going to take the walkway and see where it came out on the street, just for the fun of it.  Until I saw the sign.  In case you can’t see it, it says:  WARNING.  Venomous Snake Nesting Area.   Yikes.  That slowed me up.

I did go part way over the walkway before I decided I was not really that interested in finding the street anyhow.  

I didn’t stay as long as I might have because it was still nippy, I need to remember to dress twice as warmly as I think I need to.  But Wednesday promises to be warm and sunny again and I’m taking the afternoon off anyhow, pre-Thanksgiving, so I’m going to try again then.  It is definitely worth it.

In other news, I’ve started using WordPress’s new editor.  We’ll see how that goes…