Last night, before I heard that RBG had died, I was thinking about why I needed to come back to my blog. Yes, it gives me space to write and think, but I could have started a new vanilla blog annonymously that could have done the same thing. Y'all would not have been there so … Continue reading Just Here for the Sex
BDSM
All Good Things…
On May 7, 2010, I wrote my first kinky blog post on my first kinky blog. It said: "This is my first post! O, my. Ok, this is a blog about me, a****. And Sir. And submission – mine; the dominance is His. But you probably already guessed that. i am just beginning to figure out … Continue reading All Good Things…
Yet ANOTHER Day in TCT
A ditty flows through my head, "Here comes another day, just like the other day..." I don't know where it comes from or even if those are the right words... And really, it doesn't matter. Songs come and go. I was looking at Jade's recent photo blogs here and kept hearing the refrain "Every picture … Continue reading Yet ANOTHER Day in TCT
People are Funny
I wander around FB and Linked-In, Twitter and Instagram from time to time, people watching. It’s a more intimate glimpse than what we have at the coffee shop, right? Even if half of it is posturing and bravado, it’s still a fascinating look at what’s going on with us and what we’re willing to share. … Continue reading People are Funny
Sex – Actual Sex
Having started thinking about what it’s like to fuck, I find myself thinking about it more. Way back in the day, long ago and far away, Erica Jong wrote about what she called “the zipless fuck.” As I recall, without doing any actual googling, it involved sex without any commitment or ongoing attachment, maybe without … Continue reading Sex – Actual Sex
Catching Up
At night, I fall into bed, exhausted. I put my ocean waves meditation on my phone and usually fall asleep quickly. Every few days, or maybe once a week, I remind myself that orgasms are a relaxation tool too. It’s a purely mechanical release, although I do have a fantasy or two just to get … Continue reading Catching Up
Another Sunday in TCT
At some point, writing here started to feel like another obligation instead of the pleasure it usually is. I shifted my writing to my vanilla life, and that felt right. Today, I've been sitting here for a bit trying to figure out how I'm doing. I mean, I'm ok. I'm not freaking out. I'm not … Continue reading Another Sunday in TCT
Not Feeling It
“I don’t know,” she shrugged. “I’m just not feeling it. Ya know? I mean, all of the things happening, all the change, it’s just hard. I don’t even know what submissive means right now - what does it look like?” He looked at her, head tilted a bit, curious, as if he were weighing her … Continue reading Not Feeling It
Thought for the Day – In TCT
“What is TCT?” you ask. Clearly, it’s an acronym, not a word, at least not a word in any language I know. You won’t find it in the urban dictionary - the place I love to search for strange acronyms and inexplicable word usage. Yeah, I think I made this one up. It stands for … Continue reading Thought for the Day – In TCT
Busy Days, Busy Nights
I get up early - typically between 5 and 6 a.m. That’s when I don’t wake up TOO early - often around 2:30 or 3 a.m. But I treasure that early morning time when no one else is up yet. I was still a child when I started to get up that early. I would … Continue reading Busy Days, Busy Nights
