That’s what Sir is calling our Wednesday maintenance sessions now. A Spank-o-roma.
And it was. He thought 68 was too high a number of strokes, so he took it down to 34. 34 with the thin paddle, 34 with the medium paddle, 34 with the heavy paddle, and 34 with the leather strap. Yikes.
Ok, I might have asked for more with the medium paddle. I mean, he wanted to know if it was enough, and I couldn’t decide.
It was lovely. Ok, maybe not so much in the moment. But afterwards? Wrapped in his robe, my whole body tingling with pleasure, it was amazing.
I don’t know why a good spanking makes my body tingle. Maybe it’s good for circulation? Lol, but seriously… does it affect other people that way?
Sir continues to do extensive research on D/s, mostly through videos provided by sex coaches and sex therapists, which seems to be a good source of information. But it leads to conversations like this while we were at dinner last night:
Sir: I’ve been learning a lot about masochists and sadists too. Trying to understand the different kinds of masochists and what you are.
Me: So what am I – what type?
Him: Well, you don’t really fit any of them exactly. I do know that you’re a Spanko.
Me: Oh, um, yeah. That’s true.
Him: But I learned one thing! When I saw what they were saying about Sadists – I was shocked. I thought, that’s me!” He chuckled –
and I realized our server was standing next to the table behind Sir, and it was very quiet. The server looked at me, I started blushing and laughed – and couldn’t quit laughing. Sir was grinning, the server started walking away, looking back at me over his shoulder.
“You ok?” the server asked, earnestly. I wasn’t sure if he thought I was choking or if he was concerned about the self-proclaimed sadist next to me. All I could do was giggle and nod.
Yes, yes, I’m fine, thank you very much.
It is a different life I’m living these days.
Thank you all very much for the lovely birthday wishes by email and in the comments!! It’s wonderful to feel surrounded by so much positive energy and I really appreciate it. 💜
Olivia 
Oh dear, it can get a little dicey when the waitstaff get involved (however accidental) in kinky encounters.
Glad that X is getting into (or back into) the ‘discover’ phase and is dabbling in labels, not that labels always definitively define us. You can be a Spanko, maso, sub, bottom, AND squirrelly about flan all at the same time. Or seperately. That’s the beauty of the whole labels thing. And yeah, definitely a YMMV thing.
The tingle factor? Easily could be a result of endorphins, adrenaline or just the after affects of a good play session or ‘Spank-o-Rama’ as you (and he) so amusingly put it. A good time had by all is my take on it.
And bonus; the server had a story to tell in the kitchen.
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Lol, definitely felt a bit dicey! But, omg, we eat there pretty often, a lot of the time with my grands! And you know he was rolling his eyes and telling the story… Oh, well.
I’m delighted that Sir’s endless curiosity about the world is being channeled into kink! Sir is a mathematician, a data analyst, an engineer type and I’m certainly appreciating the results of his interest! Lol at all the labels -and “squirelly about flan…” Yep, definitely.
I think you’re right – I think the tingles are just all those hormones and neurotransmitters bouncing around in my brain… but it feels lovely.
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Out for dinner…so either Dinner on a sore butt, or a sore butt on a full stomach. Lol. Not sure what’s more challenging.
I remember when B first discovered hurting me gave him sexual pleasure. It was hard ( pun intended. Lol) because we know the odd UBER Sadists, and he’s certainly not that extreme. But like anything, I suppose there are varying degrees within the label. Who knows, maybe the deeper you go the “darker” the desires? Regardless sounds like Sir X is willing to discover more about himself. That’s never a bad thing.
As for the Masochist part- I don’t consider myself a masochist. I benefit from spankings, but only power exchange ones. And yes I tingle after some, shake uncontrollably after others. Lol. I think the comment above does a pretty good job of quickly explaining why.
Back in university I was a server, and I can tell you your conversation probably wasn’t the most shocking one the server has overheard this month! Lol but it was still amusing to read.
Happy to hear you had a good bday!
w
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Lol, we had a couple of hours in between dinner and bending over the bed – it was all good.
Yeah, I think digger deeper tends to lead to “darker” desires. Sir is, by nature, a gentle man, raised in a culture where gentle was seen as weak, so he learned to hide himself. I think times we’ve tried this before, coming to terms with “hurting” me was out of reach for him. He seems to be doing it well now, but I also think I’m much more open about how much I like it.
No, I don’t consider myself a masochist either. But I know you don’t enjoy spankings, and apparently I do. At least – I don’t like the spank part, but even right after is good. Nice to know that you feel tingly too!
Oh, I was a server for a long time myself in my youth – I’m sure it wasn’t the most shocking thing he’d heard. But I think Leathers was right – he’ll have a pretty good story to tell…
I had a lovely birthday – thanks so much! 💜
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Happy belated Birthday Olivia! For the last couple of days I havent been able to access your blog either on my tablet or phone. I keep getting a privacy page. Your connection is not secure. I seem to be able to get in on the phone again though. I have no idea. I will see if I can work it out over the weekend. Commenting on the phone is a bitch lol. If I disappear again you know I’ve been blocked again.
Spank-o-rama, I love it! It sounds as though you and Sir X are finding a rhythm, and I think that is awesome! It-s great that he is researching too. Sounds like an interesting dinner, for all, including the server lol. Glad it sounds like you had a wonderful celebration. As for the tingling, yep. I also get the shakes some times, which didnt used to happen.
Hugs.
Roz
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Roz! I’m so glad to see you – you know I worry when I don’t! I have no idea why my connection wouldn’t be secure. Stupid wordpress. Stupid technology. But yeah, I’ll know why if you disappear again…
We are finding a rhythm! And it feels really good. If I start taking it for granted, I only have to remember how miserable I was for so long – not all the time, of course, but in terms of not having any of this. As for the server… smh.
Good to know you get tingles and shakes too! Interesting that shaking is new…
So glad you were able to get through – hope the problem goes away!! 💜
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Thank you so much my sweet friend, for worrying when you don’t see me. I have no idea. Maybe WordPress hater blogger people lol. Just wanted to clarify too, the privacy page I keep getting is trying to tell me my connection isn’t safe, not yours. Pretty sure it’s my antiquated tablet lol. Then again, it wasnt letting me in on the phone either, but for some reason now is.
Hugs
Roz
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In reference to the ‘privacy page’ warning, I occasionally get something like that too. (Not here specifically, but elsewhere on the web. Depending on which browser you’re using (Edge, Safari, Chrome, whatever) it may be a product of not using the ‘https://” in the web address of the page you’re trying to access. All web pages in the beginning (Sherman, boot up the wayback machine if you please!) had only ‘http’ and that’s the way it was for the longest time.
Some bright nut came along a few years ago and wrote some code to make things more secure (because of course they did) and ‘https’ was born. Now all the browsers are looking for that, and if it’s not in the address line at the top of your page, you get a warning (or the ubiquitous privacy page) that the site you’re attempting to access is ‘not secure’, even though there’s no reason to expect that IS any less secure.
I know this is a word salad and a bit complicated. Any questions, I’ll be all too happy to help. Glad that you were able to wind your way here, regardless. Cheers.
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Yeah, I have that issue on some sites too, Roz. And I know at least one other blogger who has trouble with my site and/or with commenting sometimes.
And of course I worry when I don’t see you! It’s the mother in me…
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Thank you so much Leathers. I think it is my browser. Damn technology! The web address does start with https. I did wonder about that.
Hugs
Roz
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