Having started thinking about what it’s like to fuck, I find myself thinking about it more. Way back in the day, long ago and far away, Erica Jong wrote about what she called “the zipless fuck.” As I recall, without doing any actual googling, it involved sex without any commitment or ongoing attachment, maybe without … Continue reading Sex – Actual Sex
Catching Up
At night, I fall into bed, exhausted. I put my ocean waves meditation on my phone and usually fall asleep quickly. Every few days, or maybe once a week, I remind myself that orgasms are a relaxation tool too. It’s a purely mechanical release, although I do have a fantasy or two just to get … Continue reading Catching Up
Another Sunday in TCT
At some point, writing here started to feel like another obligation instead of the pleasure it usually is. I shifted my writing to my vanilla life, and that felt right. Today, I've been sitting here for a bit trying to figure out how I'm doing. I mean, I'm ok. I'm not freaking out. I'm not … Continue reading Another Sunday in TCT
Not Feeling It
“I don’t know,” she shrugged. “I’m just not feeling it. Ya know? I mean, all of the things happening, all the change, it’s just hard. I don’t even know what submissive means right now - what does it look like?” He looked at her, head tilted a bit, curious, as if he were weighing her … Continue reading Not Feeling It
Interlude
I think I published this and unpublished it right afterwards. Ooops... “Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. When there's a big disappointment, we don't know if that's the end of the story. It may just be the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We … Continue reading Interlude
Tip for the Day
Are you familiar with Brene Brown? If not, let me introduce you. She is amazing and I've been a huge fan of hers for years. She's doing a podcast called "Unlocking Us." I can't recommend it strongly enough. Edited to add: Thanks to Michael’s’ question, I’m back to add this: Brene Brown is a researcher … Continue reading Tip for the Day
Too Busy for a Title
I have not been this busy since I was in graduate school and working and raising kids. It’s not bad. It’s just a lot. Yes I'm a warrior woman... I’m doing my click list for the grocery right now. With my daughter, who’s taking her turn on the computer and talking - on speakerphone - … Continue reading Too Busy for a Title
