The Joy of Pain?

/ olivia

I talked about the joy of spanking yesterday. Today… let’s take it to a different level. Not better or worse, just different. 

Of course, there is some pain with spanking – the most erotic spanking will sting or burn – that sensation is what we want. The rush – the brain chemistry at work – mmmmm. 

But there is also this:

“I’ve been taking it easy on you, kid, can tell you’re having fun. But it’s all sensation to you so far. I haven’t pushed you, taken you out of yourself, looked for that place inside where you give yourself to your top. Sometimes pleasure can take a bottom there, but more often it’s pain that does.”
― Anne Thomas, Just Friends

I think I had forgotten. That’s what Sir Jon wanted for me Wednesday night, at least I think so. Sigh, yeah, I might not cry even there, but the flogger isn’t going to start me in that direction. The belt might.

That space – that point of letting go – I think willie mentioned it in the comments, maybe others did too. That point which I had almost forgotten is like going from the wading pool to the deep end – in a heated pool. It’s not a shock of cold, at least I don’t think. But do i remember what it’s like? Maybe not. I talk about it sometimes, but I think I’ve lost that sense of what it’s really like.

Well, no need to worry. I’m sure that experience, and lots of others, are on the horizon for me. I have felt touches of that more complete submission, and I’m not in a rush. I can just follow my Sir’s lead, happily obedient, and confident that he will take me where I need to go.

19 thoughts on “The Joy of Pain?”

  1. Fuck, just like that, you’ve reminded me of that one spanking with an ex of mine, Olivia I wanted him to stop, he didn’t, he just kept going and I went some place new. Some place I became completely surrendered to the feel and the rhythm of him. It didn’t matter where I was or what I should be doing anymore, all that mattered was him. Thankyou foe reminding me! Xx

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  4. Okay I’m back lol. For me there is submission and then there is SUBMISSION. LOL

    The everyday things I do or am expected to do can certainly maintain our dynamic, and without them there is definitely a hole, but they don’t always cultivate a deeper submission. Maybe it’s because it’s not as strong of a power exchange? There isn’t as much of a control factor? He tells, I do. Fine and it works but sometimes you need to rub a bit harder to get that Genie out of the bottle. ( Back to Barbara Eden again. Lol).

    For me pain or even endurance exercises, help take the exchange to the next level. I’m not a spanko but I do see the value in it. It’s the after I’m addicted to, not the how we get there. I’d like to skip that part, but it’s all part of the process. The pain shatters walls, gets me out of my head, which is NOT an easy task. In our dynamic it also serves the purpose of me submitting to something I don’t crave to someone who does. It’s the ultimate act of submission . It doesn’t always end up that way. If he stops while I’m still in fight mode, it can be horrible actually. On good days I accept it gracefully from beginning to end, but my head has to be in the right spot. On tough days he has to beat me through the anger , anger due to pain, not resentment.

    I think your analogy of the pool, especially with the temperatures is pretty bang on! Those lighter -ish spankings touch the surface and are shocking like cold water, and also serve their own purpose. But you don’t often have the opportunity to let it engulf you entirely to your core. There is a depth that can be experienced when you’re over your head- somewhere after, “oh God I want this to be over’, and acceptance. That is where surrender is found and when submission can really take flight – um at least for me. It’s a heady experience and one I treasure, even if I hate the getting to that part journey. Lol

    I hope you are reacquainted with it soon and it is every bit as wonderful as you remember!

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    • YES, YES, YES! This is exactly how I feel, willie. I’ve tried to explain before how I actually don’t like spankings, how I do wish we could somehow skip the part where pain is inflicted, but the effect of a spanking on me after…it helps break everything down, and take all the stress and pain away. Thank you for articulating your insight! XOXO

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    • Yes! You describe this so beautifully. That acceptance.

      And when a spanking is really hard – i”m not all zen and happy about it either!! It has to go past that to get me to the place we’re talking about. I don’t like that while it’s happening either, but ohhhh, the aftermath.

      So it makes sense to me that you don’t like spankings and love the after part. It is all that.

      💜

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  5. Hi Olivia,

    I actually told my Sir last night what I think I needed in a spanking to get me to let go. Yes, I definitely have a very tender ass today lol. We started with the punishment spanking, which was not fun! Later on there were a couple more sessions which were glorious. (Hmm, maybe it isn’t just the afterglow I crave lol).

    I did something I never thought I would do which really surprised both of us … I begged for more. I’m not sure I totally remember the begging now.

    I Will blame you as that is something you talked about in a recent post lol

    Hugs
    Roz

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