In the Poly Realm

/ olivia

Now that I actually have two Doms, I’m feeling a bit like I’m living in a romance novel. A kinky romance novel, like the ones my friend Raleigh Damson writes. It will be interesting to see what plot twists lie ahead!

(By the way, pre-order is now available for Raleigh’s 7th Bandit Brothers book, Flame for Keeps, is available for pre-order.)

Sir X (yes I’m dropping the “ee”) found a couple of interesting blog posts about having being poly and having a Dom. Can You Have a Dom Outside a Vanilla Relationship. Part 1 is here; Part II is here. It was a good reminder for me that what I’m doing is not far outside the things that other people do. Both articles were really well written and cover this topic in thorough way. Not that Sir X is vanilla, by any measure, but the material could apply to a number of situations.

Of course, Sir Jon was busy writing yesterday and there are a couple of his posts that I want to share here. This one, Good Golly, It’s Poly! I thoroughly enjoyed. Full disclosure, he says nice things about me. He also calls me his concubine, which makes me laugh, and is probably true as far as it goes. Perhaps that’s my official title? In any case, it’s better than paramour, which is what social workers used to call unmarried people having a sexual relationship.

Beyond that, I thought that Sir Jon’s other Dom Talks from yesterday were also excellent. Sessionally Speaking and The Uncle Ben Law are really worth reading.

In other realms, Girl on the Moon, by Michael, on his blog, The Dionysion Experience, also really resonated with me in a different way. This post talked about Jungian archetypes and how we project them onto actual people in our lives. Ultimately, the projections have to be withdrawn and you’re left with the very human person, flaws and failings and all. Another “worth-reading” post. 

My daughter turns 40 today. Her kids are saying she’s now “officially old,” but I think it means that I am now officially old! I am more or less ok with that – it beats the alternative. And I have a long list of things to be grateful for – maybe that’s a post in itself at some point.

This is one of the quotes is in my heart today:

“Face it,’ I said. ‘There is no true life. Your true life is the one you end up with, whatever it may be. You just do the best you can with what you’ve got,’ I said.”
~~ Anne Tyler, Back When We Were Grownups

But this one is there as well, and I send this out to all of you Internet people (as KM calls us, which always makes me smile.)

For the Journey
May you have moments
in the sunlight
that your soul never forgets.
May you encounter love
as strong as music,
and there’s no need to question it.
May you travel the earth trusting
that for all of the unknowns
there will also be moments in music and light
that remind you:
you are not alone.
~ Morgan Harper Nichols

13 thoughts on “In the Poly Realm”

  3. Hi Olivia,

    What an exciting time! You titled a post “Whirlwind” the other day and I bet your head must be spinning at the moment … in a good way 😊

    Those were were excellent, insightful posts and great food for thought. I imagine things could get complicated at times. Communication is definitely the key, which I know you are good at. Love today’s quotes too.

    Happy Birthday to your Daughter!

    Hugs
    Roz

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    • Hi, Roz – Omg, you’re right – this has had my head spinning at times.

      I’m glad you liked the posts too! I’m quite sure that things will get complicated – and it will be interesting to see how we find our way through it. Glad you liked the quotes.

      And thanks for the birthday wishes!!

      💜

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  4. When I found this kinky community on WordPress in 2017, it was like a whole new world opened up to me. I’d had thoughts of domination and spanking whirling around in my kinky brain most of my life, but never knew that there were people actually living these lives. Now, I read about a variety of different lifestyles and how people make it all work. Being married to a vanilla man for 21 years and having enjoyed a D/s dynamic with a very dominant man for the last three, I can say with great certainty that if you can dream it up, you can make it work… with lots of honest & clear communication, patience, and mutual respect. I look forward to hearing more on how each of you process and experience all of this…if you and MP resume a romantic relationship, how Sir Jon and Sir X work together to dominate you, and how you grow as a submissive, etc. I LOVE your blog, olivia. Thank you for sharing in your journey with your readers! XOXO

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  5. Another lovely post.
    I think Sir X does sound better than Sir Xee, it adds mystery.
    Glad to hear that I do something to make you smile, a fair payment for the times your blog has done the same for me.

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  6. I loved The Journey. Some of it definitely rings true for me. Some parts of our journey are vastly different, as I’m sure you suspect, but there are many parallels ( some of which have been brought to the forefront reading here lately).

    I too will be reading with much curiousity and hopefully cheering along as well.

    I agree Sir X does flow a tad better.

    As for your daughter, I remember when my older sister turned 60. I commented that I couldn’t believe I had a 60 year old sister ( lol now I’m soon to have a 60 year old husband. ). My Mom responded with a very emphatic, ” I cannot believe I have a 60 year old daughter!!!”. I said, “okay you win”. Lol. It’s all perspective .

    willie

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    • I’m glad you liked the poem. I agree, our journey is different and yet there are maybe ways we connect and relate to each other’s experiences. I have really come to realize that lately, and appreciate you.

      Lol, about your sister, and now your husband. I think your Mom was right! It is, indeed, all perspective.

      Excited to read your blog too! Can i share the link here?

      💜

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