"No, Sir," I said, "It's not that I'm unhappy, there isn't anything wrong. Or not exactly. But - you know how ambivalent I am about routine. I love to be this free-flowing spirit who does what feels right in the moment, but then I long for routine and feeling more grounded. I seek structure around … Continue reading The Rhythm of This Life
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The Paradox of Submission
Submission: the action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. e.g. "They were forced into submission" The whole point of submission is that you're doing what someone else wants you to do. My long-time-ago unoffoical Dom, Mike, used to say, "You know how … Continue reading The Paradox of Submission
The Switch
"Bring me the switch," he says. "The switch, Sir?" I ask. He smiles, "The switch and the leather paddle now. The switch is soaking in the umbrella stand in the corner." "Yes, Sir," I say, and if I am a bit breathless, it is because the idea of a freshly soaked switch, so it will … Continue reading The Switch
International Women’s Day & Submission
Shimmering Muse posted this amazing poem on her blog and I love it so much I have to share it here. To the Woman She Is, Take up space….not to shrink, but to claim your place.Inhabit your body like the universeit was always destined to be. You were never meant to fade,never meant to dim … Continue reading International Women’s Day & Submission
Who’s the Dom Here?
When I was involved in an in-person kinky community, I learned this lesson about the difference between being a Dom or a sub. I'll share a scenario, you tell me who's the Dom. One person is sitting at the table. The other person carries over a plate with a beautiful array of small pastries for … Continue reading Who’s the Dom Here?
Where Has All the Kinky Gone…
Yes, you have to sing that to the tune of Where Have All the Flower Gone. In case you don't know that song: https://youtu.be/jb2GiMSXJsg?si=1FSDbaqohQdQtk2c But maybe the kinky is still here... A Kinky Retreat, Part 2 I heard the doorknob turn, the door opening, and felt the cooler air from the hallway caress my body, … Continue reading Where Has All the Kinky Gone…
Crops and Floggers and Belts, Oh, My!
I found myself mentally chanting those words, bent over the bed, ass exposed, waiting for the flogging to begin... It was leather night, very exciting after last week's wood night. It's not that I don't enjoy paddles. I do. But not quite as much or as hard as Sir planned (and carried out.) Of course, … Continue reading Crops and Floggers and Belts, Oh, My!
The Little Things?
Sir and I continue to have regular sessions, maintenance on Wednesday, play on Sunday - although we're switching to Tuesday and Saturday, starting last night. I think it is actually, really helpful for me and improves the quality of my life overall. However. There's always an "however" with me, isn't there? Lol, that's how I … Continue reading The Little Things?
Rope
I love rope - have i mentioned that? Lol, yes, I know I have. But last night reminded me of how much I love it. Just the sense of being restrained is so lovely. While I was securely tied to a chair, legs open, Sir used a number of strappy toys on me - my … Continue reading Rope
Demisexual?
I am fascinated and often delighted by the variety of ways we can define our sexuality. Sir has been researching some terms for himself (which I won't share, although he has indicated how he identifies on his Fetlife profile.) But I've been thinking about myself today and who I'm attracted to. Yes, I like labels. … Continue reading Demisexual?
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