I don’t do resolutions. I barely do goals. I do set intentions, although I don’t have any specific ones for 2026 yet. And for several years, I’ve picked a word of the year that goes with my intentions.
This year, I haven’t had a clue what my word was going to be. Last year it was Rooted – meaning rooted in myself, not in externals or other people. I’ve made some progress with that this year, although of course the work is never done.
It is already the year of #MeFirst, at least in the sense of keeping my own well-being in mind. Although I feel like I should add a disclaimer – #MeFirst but harming none. Or something like that.
But I haven’t found my Word yet.
Today, my New Year got off to a wonderful start. I woke up to directions from my Sir. That awakened my whole body, and, to my delight, following his instructions led me to a lovely orgasm – first of the year. Like a gift for the new year. And even though he wasn’t physically here, I felt wrapped in his presence.
But somehow I slid from that warm welcome into an early post-holiday slump. It usually doesn’t hit me until a bit later in January. But here it is now.
Quite suddenly, I felt dreadfully trapped in my life, just about ready to gnaw my foot off if it would help me escape. Except, you know, there are people depending on me to be here, mostly my grandkids who would be impacted. I don’t want to blow up their lives.
When I think about things I can do to make change without destroying anything, I feel so overwhelmed I can barely move. There is so much that would need to be done, it feels impossible.
So I spent part of the day quietly moping (or maybe I was grieving the life I imagined I would have.)
And then I began to think about my word of the year.
Action. I need to focus on action.
I get lost in thinking about doing things – and planning. I love to plan. I’m really good at planning. Not so much at actually doing what I’ve planned.
I need to shift that this year. So maybe my word is Action.
Maybe it’s Movement. I like the sense of moving forward. It also encompasses moving my body, which I need to do more of.
It could be Initiative, but I don’t think that’s it. I don’t feel enough energy with initiative.
Action has lots of energy, whereas I feel like Movement goes a little bit slower. I don’t know which is better for me this year, or maybe there’s another word that reflects what I need even better. I’ll have to think about it.
And look – I managed to go from moping to planning! Without needing to take any action at all, I already feel better. Sigh. This is not actually good news.
But I’ll finish this post and go get the clean sheets out of the drier. Get the next load of laundry in the washer. Not exactly big accomplishments, but it is action.
And now in the evening, I can settle back into the memory of how the day began. Feeling the warmth and pleasure of Sir’s control… A wonderful beginning to 2026.
Olivia 
Action, that’s a great word for the new year. I am trying to be more active in how I move through my life and so far so good.
I’ve loved your recent posts Dear one and I intend to be more active online and support the wonderful bloggers that I have discovered through this blog.
I look forward to your words in 2026 and hope your actions bring joy and purpose to your life.
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Thanks, KM! I’m glad you’re enjoying my posts! It will be nice to see you around here again.
And what a wonderful wish for 2026!! Wishing the same for you, my friend. Looking forward to hearing how your year goes. 💜
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Sometimes it’s the big things that are important, sometimes the small. Sometimes we need something big to bring change, sometimes just something small.
Here’s hoping you’ll find what you need in this new year.
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Oh, I like that, James. I think it’s true too.
And thank you for the good wishes! Hoping the year is kind to you and brings lots of joy!
💜
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Thank you!
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Hi Olivia,
Action is a great word!
You have so much in your head at the moment. Take a breath and try and chunk the thoughts down bit by bit. Easier said than done. In the meantime relish in how the day started 😀
Hugs
Roz
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Hi Olivia,
Action is a great word!
You have so much in your head at the moment. Take a breath and try and chunk the thoughts down bit by bit. Easier said than done. In the meantime relish in how the day started 😀
Hugs
Roz
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Thanks, Roz, good advice! I’ll see if I can actually do that…
But yes, in the meantime, I’ll definitely enjoy moments like my moring that bring joy! 💜
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Hello, dear one. The image you described…feeling wrapped in Sir’s presence…was so evocative, and it makes the contrast of the later slump feel even more real. I appreciate how you hold both and have lots of empathy for the slump, as I myself am familiar with that particular kind of drop. I’ll be curious to hear which word you settle on. I have a lot of appreciation for the word movement at present moment ❤️
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Thank you, my friend. I love that you understand and can relate to so much of what I experience. The ups and downs of D/s can be so challenging – well, the downs are challenging. Although I still kind of think this was just my Janurary slump… Anyhow, thanks for being understanding and a good friend.
Anyhow, Movement might be my word! I’m not ready to commit though. I’ll wait a bit to see what the year brings… 💜
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