Of course, today I’m celebrating all day that my daughter’s home. Her kids are beyond thrilled. I slept in and don’t have to take anyone to school and am loving it.
I’m also still listening to the Healing Collective Trauma summit – I haven’t gotten to listen to all of it, and can’t afford to upgrade to keep it, but it’s been pretty powerful. So much of it interconnects beautifully with the things I already know or believe.
For example, Otto Scharmer talks about the three things we need to heal:
- To be seen (seeing someone as they really are, not your own projections of what you want or need, but to see them.)
- To be held (holding space for someone to experience what is happening without trying to fix them or change them.)
- To be supported (having confidence that the person is doing their part of the work. That they have what they need to do what they need to do, in the same way that you are doing your part.)
So when we think about the D/s relationship, I think those aspects are present on both sides of the slash. Does that make sense? Or maybe they aren’t. Are those qualities present for submissives as well as Doms? For Doms as well as subs?