I have a bunch of thoughts floating around in my head – if I knew how to do it, I’d put them here in bubbles, like a cartoon, or circles.  But I don’t know how to do that here, so you’ll have to imagine it.  Here are my thoughts, in no particular order.

I Believe:

  • Spanking – getting spanked – clears my mind and helps me focus.
  • BDSM has, or can have, a spiritual component.
  • I carry a lot of guilt for things that aren’t my responsibility.
  • Perfectionism has been a lifelong struggle for me, and has sometimes kept me from trying to do new things.
  • It’s very unlikely that I will get to have a BDSM relationship with someone who is also my partner.
  • My experience with the BDSM community in real life has helped shaped my beliefs.
  • I’m an INFP – changing the world is my goal.
  • BDSM is about way more than sex.
  • I’m not a very disciplined person – I’m a wanderer.
  • Being a wanderer is not all bad, but it’s not all good either.
  • I’m drawn to the idea of punishment – just as a general principal.
  • Focusing on pleasing a Dom is really good for me.
  • My submissiveness extends beyond a relationship with one person.
  • I might be more effective in the things I do – job, vocation, and relationships – if I were less driven by the need to please.
  • It would be helpful to have guidance in handling my desire to serve. 
  • Having a relationship with a Dom helps me focus my desire to please and allows me to build my desire to serve. 
  • Whatever I do has to be consistent with my values, which may not be traditional ones.
  • Spanking, obedience, and discipline are sexually arousing for me.
  • BDSM help me be more embodied, more connected to my physical self.

So there’s a nice mix of ideas.  Or maybe an odd mix.  I believe lots of things, but these are ones that seem important to my kinky life.  These are the things I’m trying to sort through to decide what I need to do next.



8 thoughts on “Ideas

  1. No thought bubbles, but kudos to the various colours! I can relate to a great deal of these. I just wanted to single out this one- for some reason, that is too long to go into here. LOL

    “My submissiveness extends beyond a relationship with one person.” As does mine- HOWEVER I have to feel they deserve it. I submit to my husband even if (on that particular day) I don’t feel he ‘deserves’ my submission (meh, I’m not perfect!) but because it is who I am. Doing so fulfills a need in me. Submitting to others, is based on a trust that is actually greater in some ways. Probably doesn’t make a whole lot of sense as I can see subs our there thinking, ” you should have the ultimate trust in your Dom” and I do ( most but to trust another who is not as invested as my husband to my well being- to me that choice of submission is different and in some ways greater. ( not talking sexually).

    Anyway seems like you put a great deal of thought into this list. I hope you found the process a rewarding one.


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    • Thanks – I”m glad you liked my colors – and thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      But I’m not sure we’re talking about the same thing here. I don’t think the quick fantasy I had plays out in my head the same way it does in yours, and of course that’s not surprising. And of course perfectly ok. It would be a boring world if we all thought the same way or shared the same kinks!

      It was fun to identify the things I was thinking! And Jade’s comment has given me more food for thought, I may have more to write along these lines.

      Thanks again for your comments.


  2. so many colours! kinda gives me an idea what your thoughts look like floating about in your head. not a strange mix at all i think they all kinda meld together into one very logical big picture.

    now i feel like i need to go and think about ME. cos i definitely can identify with many of these statements too!

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    • Glad you liked the colors – that is sort of what they look like!! They meld for me pretty well too, but you know, my ideas.

      Would love to hear your thoughts about YOU!! I love that you identify with some of this.

      Thanks for commenting here. ❤


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