i was reading this article this morning about friendship – the first paragraph pulled me into it, where they say:
“THINK of all the people with whom you interact during the course of a day, week, month and year. The many souls with whom you might exchange a greeting or give a warm embrace; engage in chitchat or have a deeper conversation. All those who, by some accident of fate, inhabit your world. And then ask yourself who among them are your friends — your true friends. Recent research indicates that only about half of perceived friendships are mutual. That is, someone you think is your friend might not be so keen on you. Or, vice versa, as when someone you feel you hardly know claims you as a bestie.”
I know that’s true – within the last couple of years, i’ve been reminded of it in some fairly unpleasant ways. But this post isn’t about that – you know, i’m 60 years old, it is ok to be reminded that not everyone who acts like your friend is going to hang on when it gets tough. And that’s ok. The article resonated with me when it said:
“…friends are people you take the time to understand and allow to understand you.”
And i thought about how, in the blogosphere, we take the time to put ourselves there – how the process of becoming friends is enhanced by the degrees of intimacy we share. At the same time, we are only putting out what we want to be seen, so from that perspective, it’s a bit like Facebook. i like to think that i’m honest and transparent – that’s my intent – but of course, i’m not objective about myself.
And this part made me stop and think about all the people i treasure.
So it’s worth identifying who among the many people you encounter in your life are truly friends. Who makes time for you? Whose company enlivens, enriches and maybe even humbles you? Whom would you miss? Who would miss you?
And it occurs to me that maybe what matters is how it feels when i think about the people i have affection for – regardless of whether or not they meet some criteria for “friendship.” Maybe what matters is that it make me feel good when i think about them.
Anyhow. Just musing more on friends, and feeling grateful for the people in my life.
In terms of check-in… um, i haven’t even weighed myself in a long time. Exercise schedule is hit-n-miss, but better than it was. And i’m being more active in general more of the time. And, in general, feeling pretty good about life.
Enough of that. i want to pass on a question that Subprincess asked. She said:
“I know a relationship D/s or otherwise is really whatever the 2 or more people decide; however, how common is it for a Dom to have many submissives? I am curious and seeking any input.”
That’s an interesting question. i think it depends on what you mean by “have.” And what you mean by “common.” Lol – but seriously, i mean, what Dom would have time to really dominate many submissives? Unless it was some kind of poly household, but then that’s a different thing. i don’t know.
So i’m throwing the question out here – what do youall say?