If you’re not familiar with CollarMe, it’s one of the dating sites for kinky people. Unlike fetlife, you often get lots of immediate responses to your profile – but the profile usually explicitly says you’re seeking some kind of relationship.
i met MP through CollarMe about 5 years ago, and took my profile down after we got involved. A couple of years ago, he had me set up a profile looking for submissive friends, i don’t really know why, and we never did anything with it. Occasionally, some random person would send me a spam-y message, but that was so long ago, i’d almost forgotten about it.
Until Monday evening. Monday evening, i got a notification that i had a new message on CollarMe.
i found my password, and went to the site. The message was from a 60 year old Dominant and said, “Does your Master share u?” And i thought, weird. i looked at his profile, and it looked kind of interesting. So i answered him. i said, “My master doesn’t really use me anymore. It’s complicated. And i logged back out.
A little while later, i get a different message, and this one says, “I would only talk to you with your Master’s permission.” i have no idea what to make of that. i glance at my profile and it seems very different from what i remember – it starts with “This one is owned by Master X” and at one point it says something about “this one” needing lots of attention,” and that any responses would be monitored by her master. i don’t know what to think about that, but i’m in the middle of writing “i imagine (15)” so i just leave a mental question mark in my head, and go back to writing.
A few minutes later, MP bursts into the kitchen, where i’m writing. “Whatcha doing?” he asks, walking behind me to look at my screen.
“Nothing really,” i say, minimizing the window with olivia and pulling up Facebook. “Writing.”
“Well, I know you’ve been on CollarMe,” he says. i’m shocked – what?
So he explains – of course my account had sat dormant – until today, when he got on there and changed the profile. So now, my profile is popping up on the lists again, and i’m getting responses. i’m listening, still confused.
MP says that he liked the message from the guy saying he would only talk to me with permission from my master, that he thought that was respectful. He says that my response to the one Dom is ok, that it was also respectful, and he appreciates that, but that he’s changed the password so that i can’t access the account anymore.
i’m a little baffled, but intrigued. Then he says that he’s looking for someone to share me with. That if i need to look somewhere else for my need for D/s, he’s going to be involved in that.
i’m shocked, totally taken by surprise. But he reminds me that he and his last wife had shared experiences with others, even though it ended badly, he doesn’t really have a problem with that.
There are rules.
MP is the Dominant, he’s going to be in charge of this. The person is going to be “his friend” first – he’s going to find them. He’s going to be present. We’ll meet them in a public place. We’ll play in a motel room, away from the house. i am not to contact them without his knowledge.
Those kind of rules.
i just kept giggling, i couldn’t believe he was serious.
But he is.
And we might get to go to some events too. Maybe out of town.
And he ordered me a magic wand. A real one. It’ll be here Wednesday.
Gives new meaning to the whole, “Ask and ye shall receive?” thing doesn’t it? i am still in a “can’t quite believe it” phase, but it’s really happening – we really had this conversation – so who knows what comes next?