From the beginning, Sir Jon has been open and totally clear about his intention to have more than one D/s relationship. I am equally clear that I'm fine with that. I want him to be free to in whatever ways are important to him. In the same way, I expect space to be able to do what I … Continue reading Ethical Polyamory
Just me
Attentiveness
I've been thinking about all kinds of things lately, many of them related to my relationship with my Sir. Some of them, he brought up on his blog in his post Sunday Musings. I've been following the comments on that with great interest, of course. Thanks to those of you who offered to explore the topics further with … Continue reading Attentiveness
Stupid Vulnerability
“But, chiquita, you must understand that while you are here, I expect you to come to me and share your fears. Even if I am the one causing them.”― Cherise Sinclair Ok, ok, vulnerability is not actually stupid, I know. And I practice it all the damn time. No, right, not really ALL the time, but … Continue reading Stupid Vulnerability
Word of the Year 2024
I picked my word. Are you ready? (Drum roll, please) The word is: Light. The Cambridge English Dictionary defines light as "the brightness that comes from the sun, fire, etc. and from electrical devices, and that allows things to be seen." Light is defined as "not weighing a lot." It can mean "entertaining and easily understood, but not serious … Continue reading Word of the Year 2024
Exploring My Submission
I shared this in a comment yesterday, but want to play with it a bit more today. “I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, … Continue reading Exploring My Submission
Word of the Year, Solstice, and More
Selecting a Word of the Year is a lot like setting an intention, I think. I did it last year and enjoyed the process. Unfortunately, I don't remember what my word was, so I may or may not have ended up focusing on it throughout the year. In 2024, I would like to be mindful of the word … Continue reading Word of the Year, Solstice, and More
Shopping
We went shopping yesterday, Sir and I. Practically speaking, this involved us chatting, me taking pictures of items for him to consider and select from. Thongs, y'all. That what we went shopping for. I had none - as I mentioned before, had never tried them. But I got one pair, at his request, and wore them for him. They were … Continue reading Shopping
Tis the Season
This post is a potpourri of vanilla and kink, Christmas and Solstice, and includes music, planning, and some quick fantasy. If you're just here for the kink, you may want to pass. Every Christmas, I share my favorite non-traditional Christmas music. I already shared The Christians and The Pagans, which is probably number 1 on my "hits" … Continue reading Tis the Season
The Aftermath
One thing about submission - active submission - is the intensity and the insistent demand to pay attention to what I'm feeling. So the highs take me up near ecstasy and the lows bring me crashing down. I don't think this means there's something wrong (although I could be wrong.) I think it's part of the process - … Continue reading The Aftermath
Not a Girly Girl
I was going to talk about my upcoming appointment at the wax salon. As you may know, if you've been around a while, I have been pretty much untouched and unseen as a sexual being for 7 or 8 years, except for a couple of months in 2020. I should add "in person" because I like … Continue reading Not a Girly Girl
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