One thing about submission - active submission - is the intensity and the insistent demand to pay attention to what I'm feeling. So the highs take me up near ecstasy and the lows bring me crashing down. I don't think this means there's something wrong (although I could be wrong.) I think it's part of the process - … Continue reading The Aftermath
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Not a Girly Girl
I was going to talk about my upcoming appointment at the wax salon. As you may know, if you've been around a while, I have been pretty much untouched and unseen as a sexual being for 7 or 8 years, except for a couple of months in 2020. I should add "in person" because I like … Continue reading Not a Girly Girl
Never Have I Ever
Have you heard of that game - Never Have I Ever? It’s usually a drinking game. Someone starts off by naming something simple they’ve never done before, and any one who has done it is supposed to take a drink. It’s a lot of fun and funny to hear the things people have actually done. Facebook has … Continue reading Never Have I Ever
The Imperfect Pleasure of Privilege
I played with a lot of titles for this post. Gently laughing at myself, I considered "Complaints of Privilege, from Just Another White Girl," but I thought other people might not get the self-deprecating humor. I considered "Seeking Perfection from a Position of Privilege". Then, switching paradigms, I thought about "First Wife or Slave Girl?" … Continue reading The Imperfect Pleasure of Privilege
The Pleasures, 2
This is part of a series. Because I often use this space to bitch and complain, or to process the more painful parts of my life, I've decided to share some of my everyday pleasure too. Hope you enjoy... The beach is always a pleasure. The air, the sound of the waves, the people, the … Continue reading The Pleasures, 2
All Good Things…
On May 7, 2010, I wrote my first kinky blog post on my first kinky blog. It said: "This is my first post! O, my. Ok, this is a blog about me, a****. And Sir. And submission – mine; the dominance is His. But you probably already guessed that. i am just beginning to figure out … Continue reading All Good Things…
Finding My Way – Again
Over and over, we are hit by forces - emotional, physical, or spiritual - that threaten to submerge us. I felt that this weekend, so many of us suffering, whether we were in the middle of the social tsunami or watching, pacing helplessly and wringing hands, calling encouragement from the sidelines. That sounds so dramatic, … Continue reading Finding My Way – Again
We Are Not All Right
Across the country, protests are happening that scream of our not-all-rightness. We are not all right, the children are not all right. It makes me think of this story about the Masai warriors in Africa: And How Are the Children. "Among the most accomplished and fabled tribes of Africa, no tribe was considered to have … Continue reading We Are Not All Right
Yet ANOTHER Day in TCT
A ditty flows through my head, "Here comes another day, just like the other day..." I don't know where it comes from or even if those are the right words... And really, it doesn't matter. Songs come and go. I was looking at Jade's recent photo blogs here and kept hearing the refrain "Every picture … Continue reading Yet ANOTHER Day in TCT
People are Funny
I wander around FB and Linked-In, Twitter and Instagram from time to time, people watching. It’s a more intimate glimpse than what we have at the coffee shop, right? Even if half of it is posturing and bravado, it’s still a fascinating look at what’s going on with us and what we’re willing to share. … Continue reading People are Funny
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