Thanks, Amy! Love this question.
What was the first spanking you ever received as an adult and would you say it was playful? Sexual? A punishment? Oh, sadly, the first spankings I received as an adult were the result of sharing my secret liking for spankings with some very vanilla guy I was dating, who then tried to spank me because he figured I’d like it and it would turn me on. It did turn me on, but being spanked by someone who doesn’t really like doing it and who doesn’t know what he’s doing at all is not as much fun as those of us who crave spankings might dream of.
On the other hand, my first actual spanking by someone who considered himself a Dom for real, and who liked to spank women, was a lovely experience. I don’t think I’ll ever forget it. And the best spanking I ever had – well, really, it was “impact play” was from a Dom at a dungeon. We had been dating and he was really experienced so he’d already spanked me and tied me up and done all kinds of things.
He attached me to a St. Andrews cross. Just my wrists, he left my ankles unfettered. He told me if what he did “hurt more than I expected it to” that I should raise one leg off the ground, to let him know, because in the dungeon he wouldn’t be able to hear my safe word.
He started with a flogger, I remember that, but i couldn’t tell you what else he used on me, just that i slipped into subspace without ever feeling real pain and just soared for a while. The entire room disappeared.
All i was aware of was this amazing sensation of being in my body completely and totally present to the moment, but just focused on me. Nothing else existed other than the feelings i was having. When I came back to earth, he was untying me, and my ass was red and welted, but i had still not felt any real pain.
When i said that to him, “but it never even hurt, Sir,” in tones of amazement, he said, “Of course not, it wasn’t supposed to,” adding “Come on, carry this blanket over here and I’ll wrap you up,” or something like that. He left me just trembling with submissive longings…
Sigh. It was lovely.
Thanks for the question!!