Some of you may remember that once upon a time, not really that long ago, I was firmly committed to the idea that I needed a Dom to Dom me; that to experience the pleasures of submission, there had to be a Dom physically present to inflict all the pleasure/pain. Since then, I've moved far away … Continue reading Perspective
Just me
More on The Shadow
I had not expected the depth of response to my post on the Shadow and really appreciate it. I continue to think about it and look at different thoughts and perspecitives. I want to share this link from Michael's blog, The Dionysian Experience. He has a powerful post that he re-shares at the beginning of every year … Continue reading More on The Shadow
The Third Wednesday
It was Sir X's birthday yesterday, so we had a special script from Sir Jon. Yes, it was a birthday spanking, only I "took the spanking for him." Sir X is 71. That's a lot of spanks. But the first 36 were with the flogger, and of course, I love that. 35 more with the big paddle - oof! That … Continue reading The Third Wednesday
Rebooting Today
I started a post this morning that ending up leading me down a logical path with an end point I didn't like. I need to pursue that some other time maybe, but not today. So instead, I need to take a different path. As a teacher of Mindful Self Compassion, I have developed a habit of putting … Continue reading Rebooting Today
In my Vanilla World…
I hardly ever know what I'm going to write about until I start. I might have thought I would write about the lovely session Sir and I had last night and how I still can feel the effects today sitting here. Not just sitting a bit carefully, but you know, the glow is lingering too. So I'll … Continue reading In my Vanilla World…
Not Rushing Through
I wanted to post quickly, practically a drive through post. But you know, fast food is not really my style. Seriously, I don't even eat McDonald's. So I won't rush through this either. Just a moment of stillness instead, turning inward... In the silence, thoughts bubble up... Nora's post on The Animal Within Me which invites us to consider what … Continue reading Not Rushing Through
Female Orgasm
As promised, i've been reading up a bit on female orgasm. The type of orgasm that i was curious about didn't make it to the list - so maybe it is not an orgasm at all. I don't know. If i'm feeling brave as i write this post, i might describe it hear and see if it happens … Continue reading Female Orgasm
In the Poly Realm
Now that I actually have two Doms, I'm feeling a bit like I'm living in a romance novel. A kinky romance novel, like the ones my friend Raleigh Damson writes. It will be interesting to see what plot twists lie ahead! (By the way, pre-order is now available for Raleigh's 7th Bandit Brothers book, Flame for Keeps, … Continue reading In the Poly Realm
A Whirlwind
Having Sir Jon in my life is a little bit like living in a whirlwind - although i have to confess, it's a co-created whirlwind. I do my share of adding to it. It's as if i've been attending to my inner submissive needs of the last 7 or 8 years all in a few weeks. Wild. My … Continue reading A Whirlwind
Just Thinking
As youall know, this sudden deep plunge into D/s waters has unbalanced my life in the best of ways. My passions upset my balance. I think that's just how it works. I trust myself to go through these disruptions to my vision of what should be, make room for what is, and come out the other side, … Continue reading Just Thinking
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