Submissive girls are greedy; Give us a taste of submissive joy and we want the whole damn thing. Let us get a taste of pleasing you, and we want to serve in 13 ways you didn’t ask for and don’t need while visions of butt plugs and nipple clamps and all the “good girls” we can get dance in our heads.
You’re not like that? Ok, fine. Maybe it’s just me…
But I’ll own it. That longing, the hunger rising irrepressibly, like a wave, overwhelming all decorum and good sense and judgment, washing it away in a flood of I want I want I want…
It takes a wise master to redirect all that desire, to bend me to his will, to teach me how to please him. Submissive girls are greedy.
There are a whole lot of things I love about this post. The good part is you know what they all are without me having to say them. Thank you for the post.
The idea of a submissive being greedy has been a paradox I’ve struggled with since day one of this life. I’ve often questioned myself and talked to countless others “is it really submission if it doesn’t ‘cost’ me something?”. I know we’ve discussed at some point along our travels together as well.
The word “cost” here of course is subjective. There are requirements of me that have become so normal that they honestly don’t push my submissive buttons anymore. If the expectation of such things were to disappear however….
I suppose I’d say they maintain the undercurrent but certainly don’t cultivate or inspire more submission. When our dynamic rests solely on those expectations, they tend to be seen (by me) as assumptions, and I begin to flounder. This is where the greed starts to creep in. I want more. It takes every bit of my being to not say I need more, ( something I’ve been failing at grately).
*** there is another train of thought I drop down the rabbit hole over ..need vs wants as a submissive.
I also remember years ago when we first started out, and this stage honestly lasted for years, Sub frenzy! G-d I had a love/ hate relationship with that stage. Talk about greed then!! It was odd, one side of me was living such an authentic part and was so fulfilled in many ways, and yet one part was pleading for more! I was waiting/ hoping for B to catch up . Lol. It messed with my heart and brain- Am I really submissive if I push to want/ need more? Side note I didn’t in the moment unless asked, but later in conversations it would come out. I felt like the wrong kind of needy then.
I often chanted a mantra, “Be helpful not a hindrance’ but it wasn’t easy!
Sorry, way off track here. Lol . Back to your post. I think for the most part I’d say I have felt selfish in my submission more than greedy. I still can’t wrap my head around if I want something, how is it submissive?
Sorry for the ramble, it’s been a while since I thought or wrote about any of this
It is fascinating, isn’t it, the conundrum of TTWD. I totally get what you’re saying about your mantra, be a help not a hindrance. Actually, that should be my mantra with MP and my daughter! I’m pretty sure I have a lot of potential as a hindrance.
But there’s the is it a gift or a burden question. Am I truly giving or is it selfish? I am with you here and I don’t think you’re off track at all. I suspect the answer is that both are true – both sides of the dichotomy.
And I know that sub frenzy is real! Particularly in those early days. Whew. I remember those time for me too. And I didn’t always handle it well. But you know, how does one handle a frenzy calmly and rationally? My guess is that most of us don’t.
Anyhow. You know how I love to hear your philosophical musings, so thanks for sharing them. One thing I know for sure is that when I wrote this, I was deeply in touch with my own inner greedy girl!
💜 Hope I post more stuff that draws you back to comment! Hope all is well with you and yours. 💜
I do find sub psychology fascinating. I think “greed” is very closely linked to the idea of topping from the bottom and I wonder whether the scale of a sub’s needs actually elevates them to a position of dominance.
You’ve really got me thinking about D/s in your last few posts, you’ve got me hard every time I’ve read them, and I’m starting to think I might really enjoy experimenting with a greedy sub.
I feel like I should rub my hands together in glee and invite you to come a little closer to the dark side! But the psychology of D/s is really interesting, and you’re right. That greed can lead to efforts to top from the bottom, which, honestly, most of us don’t actually want to do. But it’s like a lot of other things, easy to fall into. I’m appreciating your insights.
My guess is I could probably fall into bottoming from the top. When I’ve sexted with subs a couple of times, their greed has been quite apparent (though i wouldnt have thought to phrase it that way) – they wanted more pain and more humiliation, and they wanted it in a hurry. I think it was that pace and the exponential need to be used more more more that derailed me and left me thinking I probably wouldn’t be a great Dom. Certainly not a full time dom.
But I’d be willing to try with a patient sub. 😈
Oh interesting. Yeah, I can see how that hunger for more could be unsettling. Honestly, I think that’s why subs appreciate a strong Dom – a Dom will just take control of all that longing and direct it in the way he wants. This is why orgasm deniall is a thing. SO much to think about here… Thanks. 💜
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There are a whole lot of things I love about this post. The good part is you know what they all are without me having to say them. Thank you for the post.
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😊 I do know what you love about this post. Thanks for reading and commenting. It’s good to see you here. 💜
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I’m loving it, Olivia!
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I am exactly like that. Love this ❤
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💜. Thanks, nora, I’m glad it’s NOT just me!! 💜
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Good morning, and Happy New Year Olivia!
The idea of a submissive being greedy has been a paradox I’ve struggled with since day one of this life. I’ve often questioned myself and talked to countless others “is it really submission if it doesn’t ‘cost’ me something?”. I know we’ve discussed at some point along our travels together as well.
The word “cost” here of course is subjective. There are requirements of me that have become so normal that they honestly don’t push my submissive buttons anymore. If the expectation of such things were to disappear however….
I suppose I’d say they maintain the undercurrent but certainly don’t cultivate or inspire more submission. When our dynamic rests solely on those expectations, they tend to be seen (by me) as assumptions, and I begin to flounder. This is where the greed starts to creep in. I want more. It takes every bit of my being to not say I need more, ( something I’ve been failing at grately).
*** there is another train of thought I drop down the rabbit hole over ..need vs wants as a submissive.
I also remember years ago when we first started out, and this stage honestly lasted for years, Sub frenzy! G-d I had a love/ hate relationship with that stage. Talk about greed then!! It was odd, one side of me was living such an authentic part and was so fulfilled in many ways, and yet one part was pleading for more! I was waiting/ hoping for B to catch up . Lol. It messed with my heart and brain- Am I really submissive if I push to want/ need more? Side note I didn’t in the moment unless asked, but later in conversations it would come out. I felt like the wrong kind of needy then.
I often chanted a mantra, “Be helpful not a hindrance’ but it wasn’t easy!
Sorry, way off track here. Lol . Back to your post. I think for the most part I’d say I have felt selfish in my submission more than greedy. I still can’t wrap my head around if I want something, how is it submissive?
Sorry for the ramble, it’s been a while since I thought or wrote about any of this
willie
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Willie! So good to see you here! Happy New Year!
It is fascinating, isn’t it, the conundrum of TTWD. I totally get what you’re saying about your mantra, be a help not a hindrance. Actually, that should be my mantra with MP and my daughter! I’m pretty sure I have a lot of potential as a hindrance.
But there’s the is it a gift or a burden question. Am I truly giving or is it selfish? I am with you here and I don’t think you’re off track at all. I suspect the answer is that both are true – both sides of the dichotomy.
And I know that sub frenzy is real! Particularly in those early days. Whew. I remember those time for me too. And I didn’t always handle it well. But you know, how does one handle a frenzy calmly and rationally? My guess is that most of us don’t.
Anyhow. You know how I love to hear your philosophical musings, so thanks for sharing them. One thing I know for sure is that when I wrote this, I was deeply in touch with my own inner greedy girl!
💜 Hope I post more stuff that draws you back to comment! Hope all is well with you and yours. 💜
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Yes! ” Be a help not a hindrance'”. That’s the quote. I knew it sounded wrong. I guess it shows how long it’s been since I changed it??? Lol
I am always looking for ways to engage Olivia. Fingers crossed life allows us to do more of that soon!
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Fingers crossed here too!! I’ve missed. you.
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I do find sub psychology fascinating. I think “greed” is very closely linked to the idea of topping from the bottom and I wonder whether the scale of a sub’s needs actually elevates them to a position of dominance.
You’ve really got me thinking about D/s in your last few posts, you’ve got me hard every time I’ve read them, and I’m starting to think I might really enjoy experimenting with a greedy sub.
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I feel like I should rub my hands together in glee and invite you to come a little closer to the dark side! But the psychology of D/s is really interesting, and you’re right. That greed can lead to efforts to top from the bottom, which, honestly, most of us don’t actually want to do. But it’s like a lot of other things, easy to fall into. I’m appreciating your insights.
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My guess is I could probably fall into bottoming from the top. When I’ve sexted with subs a couple of times, their greed has been quite apparent (though i wouldnt have thought to phrase it that way) – they wanted more pain and more humiliation, and they wanted it in a hurry. I think it was that pace and the exponential need to be used more more more that derailed me and left me thinking I probably wouldn’t be a great Dom. Certainly not a full time dom.
But I’d be willing to try with a patient sub. 😈
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Oh interesting. Yeah, I can see how that hunger for more could be unsettling. Honestly, I think that’s why subs appreciate a strong Dom – a Dom will just take control of all that longing and direct it in the way he wants. This is why orgasm deniall is a thing. SO much to think about here… Thanks. 💜
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We masters need to summon up all our wisdom to satisfy our greedy submissive girls.
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It’s true!! And we appreciate when you do. 💜
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