When people come to you for help, what do they usually want help with?
Oooooh, that’s a fun question! You know, people come to therapy because they’re unhappy with the way their lives are – or because someone else is threatening them with some kind of unpleasant consequences if they don’t come. But often, my clients need help coming to terms with a difficult (traumatic) past that is impacting their current life, interfering with relationships, causing nightmares, anxiety, depression and the sense that their life will never be ok. They want to be able to focus and pay attention, quit having unpredictable anger outbursts, increase their self-esteem, be more in touch with themselves, and find more joy in their lives.
Often, they come in thinking it’s not about the past trauma. They want to believe that the things that happened in the past aren’t still bothering them. And I can understand feeling that way. But there’s lots of evidence that it doesn’t work like that. The things that happen to us will keep resurfacing, presenting themselves and demanding to be dealt with again and again. Not a straight line of recovery, but a spiral.
So therapy can become a healing journey – a long journey, and often we have to wander through hell to get to the other side, but accompanying people as they take that journey is the most rewarding thing I know of. Does that answer the question?
Thanks for asking!!